Looking for professional marital counselling?
Imagine if a professional relationship coach contacted you, saving you the time and effort of calling people who don't answer their phones; or who put you on hold only to tell you that they can only meet in a month?
My name is Mark Connelly. I'm a registered psychologist based in Kenilworth, Cape Town.
Update: 15 January 2023:
As of 1 March 2023 my practice will only offer web-based (online)
counselling appointments. This is an important consideration before you
begin therapy. We can discuss what this means when we meet.
You are still welcome to meet me for a No Charge, No Obligation 15-minute meeting, in-person or online. During January and February 2023 I am accepting new clients for short-term, in-person appointments OR based on your ability and willingness to meet online after 1 March 2023.
I will not be able to facilitate marriage and relationship counselling online.
very serious about ensuring that you get professional marriage
counselling. After all, I have to uphold my reputation as a psychologist
and marriage counsellor.
There are four things I suggest you can start doing right now.
is an opportunity for you and your life partner to meet together with a
trained professional to focus specifically on your relationship.
Usually this happens when your marriage has suffered some damage, but this does not always need to be the case. For example, I also meet with couples who are planning to get married.
You and your partner meet with me on a regular basis. You might choose to meet me for a set number of sessions or over a period of time (3 to 6 months, for example).
The first session may take 90 minutes but we will work within 60 minute sessions after this.
As a trained facilitator of the process I do not act as a judge, but work to help us to understand what is happening in the relationship and what can be done if you don't want this to continue.
I do this by asking questions and drawing attention to what I see happening.
I don't give you advice as there is no 'right' way of doing things. You need to discover what will work for you and your relationship.
I will offer suggestions when necessary and you can try these out together.
We'll discuss how we can go about inviting your partner to join us.
If they choose not to participate you will still benefit from the process as you will gain insight into your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. With this kind of understanding you'll also discover ways to make changes in your relationship.
Marital counselling may follow at a later stage.